HOW DO YOU LIKE IT??

It has often crossed my mind how mature individuals tend to shy away from sex talk with their partners irrespective of how long they've been in the relationship. I received a mail this afternoon from someone who wanted me to write up something about sex talk between partners. I kind of find  it amusing that  she seemed helpless as to how best she could tell her partner she had had enough of 'it' hehehe..(sorry I had to laugh) 
  I wonder why it's so hard for many to bare their minds concerning sex issues that arise. My opinion : if you can lay with him in the first place,you should be able to speak to him. Is he doing 'it' right? Is he a little too hard on you? Is the pace too fast,too slow? What are your preferences? I'm sure a heart-to-heart talk can work wonders,innit? *winks* cos if you aren't too shy to take off your undies,then you shouldn't be shy at all!